There is a pervasive cultural myth that all gays are rich, and that all Asian Americans are overachievers. Individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer (LGBTQ) and Asian American or Pacific Islander (AAPI) are therefore often assumed to be better off, experiencing the best of both worlds. However, these misconceptions all too often mask real struggles and hardships faced by LGBTQ AAPI communities.
Have I got your attention?
OKCupid’s questionnaire asks if you’d be willing to date someone who has herpes. There’s a separate question for cold sores, even though they’re the same virus.
I’ve long thought that the stigma is stupid.
Herpes is one of the most common STIs in existence. Studies show that if you’ve had more than one partner your chances of having been exposed are very, very high, whether or not you’ve contracted it.
Herpes is not generally dangerous, just really annoying. Most people don’t even know they have it. And yet, we make it out to be a joke and shame people for having it, when all they did was have sex like the rest of us. Because, guess what? Even condoms aren’t a foolproof barrier against it.
I’m pretty sure the percentages of people with some form of herpes is much higher than what these articles are saying, but no matter.
It exists, and people have it; get over it!
That’s where we gather our media-related body image issues: celebrities. Sure, we all know the name of a model or two, more for the fashion-obsessed, but, for the most part, we compare ourselves to actresses, musicians, and singers more than anyone else.
I don’t know how I feel about France’s new law. I’m sure that a large percent of extremely thin models are unhealthy since statistics show that the percentage of women who are naturally that small is, well, small. The chance that they are all skinny and healthy is…um…slim. (No pun intended…really.)
I do know this: while their intentions are well-meant, they’re not hitting the root of the problem, which goes well beyond actresses and models.
Do you like, as a woman, being able to own property? Do you like having a job, and the possibility of being in a lead position, or holding a position of major power? Do you like having the choice to marry and bear children, or not?
Everyday feminism allows these things. If you say you’re not a feminist, but you like all these things, you need to go back and take a good, long look at feminism again.
So when Nicki Minaj, Shailene Woodley and Carrie Underwood are not sure if they are so “extreme” as to be feminists, I would suggest that they have another look at the string of diamonds, the mansion or the record contract that drives their privileged lifestyle and ask themselves if they would like to have all that freedom and independence transferred to their father or their brother, because women shouldn’t own property, they should be property. Your choice. And that alone, having the choice, is feminism.